“I am finding markers relating to Trisomy 18. You may have an abortion since it is still early and I will respect whatever decision you choose.” That is what my doctor told us. Of course, we said no and went on with the pregnancy. Before you begin, I highly recommend reading our “An Emotional Pregnancy” blog post. It explains a lot about our pregnancy and Harper’s diagnosis.
I first want to say that this is not a debate of pro-life and pro-abortion. I just want to inform others out there on why abortion is an option and why we chose life.
Secondly, I haven’t been a Christian my whole life. There was a point in my life where I left God on the side of the street and walked away. Meeting my husband helped guide me to run to God, pick him up, and take him out for a really nice dinner because I owed him one 🙂 With that being said, this isn’t going to be a post about “What would Jesus do?” and quoting every verse from the Bible.
When you are pregnant with a baby that has a life-threatening disorder, most, if not all, doctors will give you the option to have an abortion. I feel like there are two types of doctors out in the world when it comes to the topic of abortion. There are the sympathetic doctors who know that is can be a very stressful time for the mother and the baby, and there are the scientific doctors who “know” the baby is going to die and would rather not put their time and effort into the baby’s life. Most of the time scientific doctors will make the parents see another doctor during the pregnancy. Luckily, we had a sympathetic doctor. He didn’t want us to go through the pain and heartache of not knowing when our baby’s heart would stop beating. But if you read our “An Emotional Pregnancy” blog post, you would know that he only asked us twice and then he stopped and began to be optimistic about our pregnancy.
When the talk about abortion came up, we immediately said no. Our decision wasn’t based off of God, the Bible, family, friends, right or wrong. We knew the only way to give her a chance to fight was to give her a chance at life. So we chose life, and she is fighting.
We didn’t know what her outcome would be and we still don’t.
There are two important things that matter:
1. She is living.
2. She is fighting.